Monthly Archives: February 2014

A Blessing for the Brokenhearted

While we celebrated Valentine’s Day in our home with small gifts of candy and cards for each other and our children, my wife, Lisa, and I also remembered dear friends for whom Valentine’s Day is a painful experience because of the loss of their spouses. For people who are grieving because of the loss of their beloved, I offer the following prayer, which is from Jan Richardson.
Jan shares incredibly creative prayers, reflections, and artwork at her website. Her husband, Garrison Doles, died at the beginning of December from complications following what was expected to be routine surgery. She provided this blessing for the brokenhearted, which grows from her sense of deep loss and is inspired by the quote from Henry David Thoreau: “There is no remedy for love but to love more.”

Let us agree
for now
that we will not say
the breaking
makes us stronger
or that it is better
to have this pain
than to have done
without this love.

Let us promise
we will not
tell ourselves
time will heal
the wound
when every day
our waking
opens it anew.

Perhaps for now
it can be enough
to simply marvel
at the mystery
of how a heart
so broken
can go on beating,
as if it were made
for precisely this –

as if it knows
the only cure for love
is more of it

as if it sees
the heart’s sole remedy
for breaking
is to love still

as if it trusts
that its own stubborn
and persistent pulse
is the rhythm
of a blessing
we cannot
begin to fathom
but will save us